Emotions are like sensors. Ignore them and you will become a personal pyromaniac, lighting your emotions ablaze.
So how do we bring ourselves down when we are on fire?
Like the firefighters do: With a plan.
1: Learn about your igniters. What are the triggers that start your emotional fire? Can you train yourself to go back and identify the moment when something started to feel off. Your stomach tightened? Your heart skipped a beat? Your shoulders tensed?
2: Remind yourself that you are in control of the way you feel. Decide if you would rather release the feeling and let it pass through you or feed the fire and burn the house down.
3A: Should you decide to burn the bridge or let your emotions take over, keep in mind the effects of leaving a fire unattended. Will your words cause a wildfire? Will your actions leave you flooded in your own tears? Is this fire worth it?
3B: Should you decide to bring out the ladder and fight the fire, keep in mind that it's a process, not a one step miracle. Identify the emotion you want to release. Does it trigger a past memory? Don't dismiss your emotions, feel them. Acknowledge that you have learned what you need to learn from that emotion and decide to let it go. Now focus on something else.. Go for a run, listen to music really LOUD or find something to do where you can put that energy to better use.
When we choose our emotions, words, and actions wisely, we acknowledge our own power.