It is difficult to let go.
It is difficult to let go of pain, of anger, of wishes that have not and will not come true.
It is difficult to let go of our past without feeling like we are cutting ourselves in half.
So how do we let go of something that no longer serves us?
How do we mourn a future we had created in our minds?
How do we let go?
Here are 3 steps to get you started on this journey of release.
1. Believe that the silver lining is the gift. Things may not have gone the way you wanted them to, but there was purpose and reason, and maybe even beauty in the way things happened. Choose to let go of what you couldn't control. Forgive or accept the parts that you contributed to. Find purpose in what you were given instead.
2. Create a ritual. The strength of a ritual is that it creates a powerful memory to rely on and bring yourself back to. Some examples of rituals could be sharing and letting go circles amongst family members. Releasing of balloons before leaving a country. A journey by the beach where you write in the sand what you wish to release to the ocean.
3. Find your guiding star. It's not enough to simply decide to let go, we have to be pulled in a higher direction. Ask yourself what are the thoughts, feelings, memories, beliefs and actions that will pull you towards what you want to focus on. Amplify these thoughts and actions instead.
When we let go of feelings and experiences that no longer serve us, we open ourselves to what we need and want.