We all expect life epiphanies to come to us while we do something grandiose, like a forty day kale cleanse of while hiking on the North side of the Andes. I do neither, so this moment of standing in front of my recycle bin seemed quite ordinary if not for the sudden shift in awareness that occurred. It was prompted by a friend's observation, or re-phrased quote that anger was holding on to what we wished had happened. At that moment I realized all the invisible threads I was still holding on to. How I had led these strings pull me around in different directions until all I could do to gain some control back was plant a seed of anger so deep in my soul that it stopped me from moving at all. Anger is a powerful emotion that can feel like swallowing a tornado.
How often do we see these glimpses of anger in children and sadly we dismiss them. Telling a child they should not feel angry rather than acknowledge that we are all entitled to feel the way we feel. Anger is a huge emotion to handle and yet there are ways to handle it so that it does not lead to violence. While we each have our own tools to deal with anger, identifying our triggers is a great place to start.